Do you live in a blended family? Current statistics indicate that as many as 1 out of every 3, or 1 our of every 4 people in the United States lives in a blended family. Blended families are formed in a variety of ways; most commonly through divorce or widowhood. Unfortunately the statistics for survival of the marriage in a blended or step family are not encouraging. Dynamics in a blended family are complex as couples strive to have a solid relationship with each other and also form a relationship with someone else’s children, or share their children with someone else and also deal with ex spouses. Children feel confused about where their loyalties should lie, “if I like my step-parent, am I betraying my biological parent?” Questions abound as to how to navigate the new family; should a non biological parent discipline their step children?” All of the uncertainties and new relationships add up to stress and stress tends to reveal any cracks in the foundation.
If you find yourself struggling in a blended family, a good place to initially place attention is to strengthen and protect the marriage. Keep in mind that the most difficult time in a blended family is often the first 5-10 years. So part of what is necessary is perseverance. Relationships and families can take a long time to find a place of security. Here is a helpful article to provide additional information.