Marriage Book Review: Hold Me Tight, by Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson is a great tool for couples to have and to work through on their own or in conjunction with marriage counseling.  Sue Johnson is the developer or Emotionally Focused Therapy which is a highly effective research based approach to marriage counseling and therapy.  Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) addresses the bond or connection that exists between couples.  Many conflicts, misunderstandings, or standoffs that couples get stuck in are really about how secure the attachment or bond is between the couple.  In Hold Me Tight,  Sue Johnson introduces 7 concepts and practical suggested exercises or conversations couples can have around these concepts and about their relationship.  These include recognizing the patterns a couple repetitively gets stuck in,  revisiting conflicts,  learning to engage and be emotionally responsive to each other, and forgiving old injuries.  I have found EFT to be highly effective in marriage counseling as the research indiciates, and this book is a helpful tool for couples to work through.